March 3, 2023
Be Reconciled to your Brother or Sister
By: N.L. Skjonsby
I can’t think of anything more valuable in this life than my time. It is finite but with no known end. I often choose to spend it in very selfish ways. Even volunteering or helping others is a selfish endeavor on my part, it brings me joy. I sell my time to the highest bidder and I give it freely in pursuit of knowledge. I invest some time in health and fitness, in hopes of adding more time. I sleep so my conscience time will be spent more optimally.
As a result of the value I place on time, I don’t fight. I don’t put myself in the position of needing to fight. If I raise my voice, it is only to be heard. If I disagree with someone, I will choose whether to share that with them. (have a discussion) This is probably an unjustified arrogance on my part, but I don’t feel a need for others to think like me. On the other hand, I approach every conversation as if I know nothing. I am willing to learn from anyone if they are willing to teach in a way that I respond too.
I haven’t seen the need to physically protect myself since the 9th grade. I grew up fighting with my older brother, but in the 9th grade I was able to physically restrain him, and we have not fought since then.
I am an extremely stubborn pacifist.
Passive aggressive doesn’t work because I use it against them. I take it literally even though that is not what the intent was.
Bullying doesn’t work because I have learned that public humiliation scares a bully much more than violence. I humor my way out, at least so far.
If you don’t agree with me or don’t like something I do, say, or have done, I am open to discussing it. I am far from perfect and willing to admit it.
So, no fights, no lingering grudges on my part.
— N. L. Skjonsby
Be Reconciled to your Brother or Sister
By: N.L. Skjonsby
I can’t think of anything more valuable in this life than my time. It is finite but with no known end. I often choose to spend it in very selfish ways. Even volunteering or helping others is a selfish endeavor on my part, it brings me joy. I sell my time to the highest bidder and I give it freely in pursuit of knowledge. I invest some time in health and fitness, in hopes of adding more time. I sleep so my conscience time will be spent more optimally.
As a result of the value I place on time, I don’t fight. I don’t put myself in the position of needing to fight. If I raise my voice, it is only to be heard. If I disagree with someone, I will choose whether to share that with them. (have a discussion) This is probably an unjustified arrogance on my part, but I don’t feel a need for others to think like me. On the other hand, I approach every conversation as if I know nothing. I am willing to learn from anyone if they are willing to teach in a way that I respond too.
I haven’t seen the need to physically protect myself since the 9th grade. I grew up fighting with my older brother, but in the 9th grade I was able to physically restrain him, and we have not fought since then.
I am an extremely stubborn pacifist.
Passive aggressive doesn’t work because I use it against them. I take it literally even though that is not what the intent was.
Bullying doesn’t work because I have learned that public humiliation scares a bully much more than violence. I humor my way out, at least so far.
If you don’t agree with me or don’t like something I do, say, or have done, I am open to discussing it. I am far from perfect and willing to admit it.
So, no fights, no lingering grudges on my part.
— N. L. Skjonsby
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